When I appeared on Erik Fisher’s Beyond the To Do List podcast recently, I knew I needed to prepare for one specific question that he asks every guest: “What does your perfect morning look like?”
It’s a question I’ve been pondering the past two months–because of Erik, and because the structure of my own home routine changed so drastically this fall. I’ve been starting from scratch, in a sense–building my own new routines, finding my new perfect morning routine.
Erik didn’t actually ask me this question. I’m not sure if we ran out of time, or if he was scared about what I would say since I told him my schedule was in flux!
Here’s what I’ve landed on so far for my perfect, everyday, ordinary morning. (One where I wake up in my own bed–not at the beach or in Paris.) It’s still subject to honing and tweaking. But I like the direction it’s heading.
(10:00 pm Lights out. My perfect morning isn’t possible if I don’t get to sleep at a decent hour.)
5:40 Wake Up. I’d love to do earlier, but I need 8 hours of sleep, and I don’t want to go to bed at 9:00 sharp every night–that’s just too early!
5:45 Super quick shower. Since I quit washing my hair every day, I can get away with a 3-minute shower most of the time.
5:50 Get dressed and make coffee. (Or herbal tea, as the case may be, since I’m giving up coffee and caffeine for my January Whole 30.)
6:00-7:00 Write. I don’t check email first, or social media. I just sit down and write on the projects I selected the night before.
7:00 Hit the couch for devotional reading and light therapy time. When the kids wake up, I want them to find me here–not with my laptop.
7:00-8:00. Kids wake up, breakfast. They’ll join me on the couch for some cuddle and reading time, then we’ll get some breakfast just before my husband leaves for work.
8:00 Preparation. In this window I finish getting myself ready for the day, if I need to, and help get the kids dressed and ready. If I need to wash and dry my hair, I’ll do it now. This is also the time to tidy the kitchen, make sure I know what’s for dinner, start the laundry, check email, and review my planner.
8:45 Start school (or head off to work). We start a typical homeschool day at 8:45 (though not every day is typical!)
What I left out
I would love for my perfect morning to include exercise, or yoga, or more time to write. It might be nice to be completely showered and dressed before the kids wake up. But the morning hours don’t stretch on forever, and right now this is how I’m choosing to balance my competing demands and priorities in the early morning hours. Those variables are constantly shifting, and I would be very surprised if my idea of a perfect morning didn’t shift over the coming year.
But for now, this is where I am.
What does your perfect morning look like?