Back in the summer, Stitch Fix sent me a beautiful top: flowy and black,with a distinctive-but-not-flashy turquoise beaded neckline. It has a vintage feel, and reminds me of something my grandmother used to wear.
I loved it immediately, but but with its long sleeves and our hot weather, I couldn’t wear it immediately. I’ve been making up for it this fall, pulling it on for multiple occasions that fall into dressy casual territory, when all that’s required is a great shirt and dark jeans.
This shirt is a compliment magnet–even strangers stop to tell me how pretty it is–but it’s not fussy or attention-grabbing. I feel like myself when I’m wearing it, not like I’m playing dress-up (like some unfortunate statement pieces make me feel) and not like I’m trying too hard. I hate feeling like I’m trying too hard.
When I’m wearing it, I’m not thinking about my clothes: I just feel confident and comfortable (though I’ve learned I feel a little more comfortable with a camisole underneath because the neckline scoops low).
I can get ready in a snap: top, jeans, shoes. I don’t even need jewelry.
It’s not a perfect shirt: billowy sleeves are never my first choice. (I’ve even thought about cutting them off to make banded three-quarter sleeves, but I’m not sure I’m brave enough. Any sewing tips?) But it doesn’t have to be perfect to work, which is a relief for anyone who has some shopping to do.
Every woman needs a Confidence Shirt in her wardrobe–a go-to outfit that makes her feel fabulous in 5 minutes or less. It doesn’t have to be a shirt, of course: some women swear by a distinctive top, like I do; for others it’s a power suit, or maybe a favorite sweater.
Whatever it is, if you can pull it on and forget about it, feel unfussy yet more like yourself in it, you’ve got yourself a winner.
What does your version of the Confidence Shirt look like? (If ALL your clothes make you feel confident and comfortable, give us some tips in comments!)