My husband and I spent the weekend in Nashville at Jon Acuff’s Quitter Conference. It was a great event with lots of food for thought, and I’m excited to share more about it with you as I process the weekend’s events.
Today I’d like to get your thoughts on one thing.
Saturday morning, Jon emphasized the importance of seeking support from our significant others, friends and family, and peers in order to accomplish anything great. Something he said stuck with me: “In every marriage there are two people: a “How” person and a “Wow” person.”
This wasn’t an unfamiliar idea to me. A favorite college prof said the same thing, basically: in his marriage, he was the one constantly saying, “I have a VISION!” His wife was constantly talking him down with her repeated, quiet suggestion: “Let’s be practical.” They made a good team, he said.
(Don’t you worry about them. They followed through on some of those visions, and the results are glorious. But they agreed they didn’t go bankrupt or crazy in the process because they balanced each other out.)
The thing is, I just don’t know that this is true for my marriage.
I’m an idea person. I tend to live in my head and think about Deep Things. In that way, I’ve got a whole lot of Wow in me, and my husband spends a lot of time talking me back down to reality. When I’m on a Vision streak, he’s the one who tells me to be (at least a little bit) practical. The How.
My husband’s an idea person, too, yet his ideas are more likely to require tons of cash and radical life change to enact: that’s Wow, for sure. That makes it my turn to be the “How” person: the practical one.
Maybe it’s true to say that our marriage has a “How” person and a “Wow” person, but as to which is which? It depends on the day.
What about you? Do you think every relationship has a “How” person and a “Wow” person? Has it proven true in your relationships?