Some Monday motivation for you:
A month ago, I was sitting on the sidelines of another kids’ sporting event, chatting with a friend, when her phone rang. I couldn’t hear the other end of the conversation, but it went like this: Uh-huh, uh-huh, I’m sorry. Uh-huh, I’m sorry, see you soon.
I didn’t know what it was about, but I’d had plenty of conversations myself that sounded a lot like that on my end.
She hung up, and filled me in. That was her husband, calling from across town, because he’d gotten two similar-sounding schools confused. The game had already started, but he was ten miles away at the wrong school, and in rush-hour traffic it would take 45 minutes to get to the right one.
He was mad, of course he was, and if I were in his shoes I would be in full meltdown mode.
(Can you relate?)
That’s the worst, I said, and if you had asked me then what I expected my friend to say in reply, it would have been something like I know. But that’s not what she said.
Eh, that’s life, she said. You can’t freak out about stuff like this.
And she went on to explain that mix-ups like this happened to everyone at some time or another, and that’s just the way it is, and you have to decide to not get upset about it when it’s your turn.
I wish I could say I gracefully took things in stride when my own carelessness lands me 45 minutes across town during rush hour, or in any number of similar situations. I can’t, because I don’t. I freak out about stuff like this. I’d assumed that was part of who I was, my latent inner perfectionist rearing her head, again.
It never occurred to me that not freaking out was an option. That I could decide to not get upset.
I told my friend so; she shook her head. I really believe it, she said. You have to decide.
Readers, sometimes you have to choose to stay on the board. You have to decide you have what it takes. And can I decide to take things in stride sometimes, instead of freaking out as per usual? It never occurred to me to try, till that day, but I’m trying.
Readers, do you take these things in stride, or get upset about them? Have you tried deciding to react differently? How has that worked out for you?
P.S. This is why assumptions are dangerous, a piece about mindset and practice and … paddleboarding.