Balance isn’t a see-saw. It’s a game of twister.

Balance isn’t a see-saw. It’s a game of twister.

My favorite session from the Quitter Conference was led by Matt Chambers. Matt’s a husband, father of 6 (including a special needs son), dreamer, director of the NGO SafeWorld, and CEO of gener.us.

And he wanted to talk to us about finding balance in our lives.

Matt Chambers addresses Quitter Conference about work life balance
With a resume like yours, I’m all ears.

Matt said that he used to view balance as a tightrope, or a see-saw. But now he thinks those are terrible metaphors for balance.

Take the see-saw. A see-saw implies that the variables are known, limited, and within our control. But real life? It’s not like that. We have no idea what’s coming next, and most of it is out of our control anyway.

Matt said a better metaphor for balance is a Twister board. Because balance isn’t about keeping things even: it’s about not falling down.

Twister as a metaphor for life balance
The game of Twister as a visual for balance

Matt said that Twister board represents our lives. See all those colored circles that make up the board? Those circles represent the things that may trip you up, cause you to fall. What fears get in the way of your dreams? What interferes with you living your best life?  What variables are beyond your control? Each of those things takes up a space on the board.

Here’s the key: You need a person in your life who will cover each space and will keep you from falling. 

Life is like the game of Twister. We need other people in our lives who can carry us through, who can cover the spaces that we can’t control.

We need other people to keep us from falling.

Is your Twister board covered? Who keeps you from falling?

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  1. Tim says:

    Twister is an inspired analogy for life balance, Anne. One aspect of the game that I think really applies to life is how spinning the dial identifies what you do next. Sometimes it tells you to move the very same limb you finally just got placed down safely. “What do you mean left foot blue? I just put my left foot on yellow. Pick something else for me to move!”

    I think I look at life like that sometimes. “What do you mean I have to deal with that part of my life? I thought I just got that part settled!”

    Twistin’,
    Tim

  2. Because balance isn’t about keeping things even: it’s about not falling down.

    I like that! I like your addition about the support system too. If I can add, even if you do fall down, at least you played the game!

  3. “Because balance isn’t about keeping things even: it’s about not falling down.”

    “We need other people in our lives who can carry us through, who can cover the spaces that we can’t control.

    We need other people to keep us from falling.”

    *love* this. I think it’s so true, and it’s one of the reasons that while I love where we live in many many ways, if a good opportunity to live closer to family came up, it’d be hard not to take it.

  4. Suzette says:

    Anne,
    Love this post!! It makes me want to run out and buy Twister!! I really identify with this analogy and WISH I could have attended that conference cause it seems to have been so inspiring and a great springboard for reflecting on life. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Judy G Gibson says:

    It’s certain family members and trusted friends who keep me from falling. And yet, if I do, in fact, fall, they lovingly help get up and keep on going! Thanks for this, Anne, I enjoyed your perspective.

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