I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working
An all-too-relatable exploration of how to find new ways to live, work, and be in the world when our long-held beliefs and methods fail us. In this warm and wise collection of essayettes, Niequist relates the midlife circumstances that forced her to reconsider many things she thought she knew for sure, and to find new ways of living when the old ways broke down. Along the way she discusses love and friendship, trauma and loss, parenting and being parented, reading (so much reading!), and moving from the midwest town she thought she’d never leave to Manhattan at age forty. I inhaled it in one big enjoyable and occasionally teary gulp, while highlighting it to pieces and texting friends quotes with the caption Weren’t we just talking about this? Comforting, practical, and wise, with meditations of faith and a chapter or two on Christian prayer; this reads like the kind of girls’ night conversation that keeps you out too late because you can’t bear to leave. For fans of Kelly Corrigan’s Tell Me More and Brené Brown’s Rising Strong.
When everything we’ve been clinging to falls apart, how do we know what to keep and what to let go of? I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet is a clear-eyed look at where we go from here–and how we can transform our lives along the way.
Just after her fortieth birthday, New York Times bestselling author Shauna Niequist found herself in a season of chaos, change, and loss unlike anything she’d ever faced. She discovered that many of the beliefs and practices that she usually turned to were no longer serving her.
After trying–and failing–to pull herself back up using the same old strategies and systems, she realized she required new ones: courage, curiosity, and compassion. She discovered the way through was more about questions than answers, more about forgiveness than force, more about tenderness than trying hard.
In I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, Niequist chronicles her journey–from her life-changing move from the Midwest to Manhattan to the power of unlearning what is no longer helpful and accepting the unknowns that come with midlife, heartbreak, and chronic pain.
With her characteristic candor and grace, Niequist writes about her experience learning how to:
- Discover new ways of living when the old ways stop working
- Embrace the challenges and delights of releasing our expectations for how we thought our lives would look
- Trust God’s goodness in a deeper, more profound way
Follow Niequist as she endeavors to understand grief, to reshape her faith, and to practice courage when it feels impossible.
Praise for I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet:
“Gentle. Loving. This tender book asks us to listen to our pain, lean into our discomfort, and trust that we can be lifted back on our feet by God and each other.”
–Kate C. Bowler, New York Times bestselling author of No Cure for Being Human
“This book is a masterpiece. It is a journey and an invitation and a joy and a heartbreak and all the things you need to read to be reminded that hope can still be found.”
–Annie F. Downs, New York Times bestselling author of That Sounds Fun