I’m sure you’ve seen it all over the news the past week: “Half of all pregnancies that happen in the U.S. every year are unintended.”
To which I have to say: Just half?
I have been pregnant 5 times. I have 4 children. My only “planned” pregnancy was the one that ended in miscarriage.
I’m a smart woman, but I was surprised to find that conception (and its prevention) is inherently dicey stuff.
I think the pundits want you to know that pregnancy is often entered into unwished-for. But what I want you to know is that entering into pregnancy at all is essentially unplannable. Because your control over the situation is limited.
Women need to know that it is hard to execute a pregnancy on a precise timetable. You can dream, you can plan, you can hope, you can pray–but ultimately, you can’t make anything happen, one way or the other.
It is hard to be a woman. It is hard to not have control over these things. But there it is–we don’t have it.
I’m attending to the current news items with interest. But my own experience is constantly informing the sensational news stories: it’s really hard to precisely time a pregnancy. For me, it’s been impossible.
As a woman, this isn’t the truth I want to hear. But it is the truth.
And I think women should know it.
What do you think? What’s your percentage?