You all know I read a lot, and recommend a lot of books here on Modern Mrs Darcy. What you may not know is that I’m really careful about what books I recommend here on the blog.
There are some books that I’ve loved that I wouldn’t dream of recommending to you without a gigantic flashing warning sign. It’s because I’m afraid you’ll absolutely hate them–usually because of the language, sometimes because of the content.
Today I’m taking you behind the scenes and sharing some of the books I’m afraid to recommend. Consider yourself warned.
Let’s Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir, Jenny Lawson a/k/a The Bloggess. Jen from Conversion Diary calls the Bloggess “The Blogger That I Cannot Link To,” and for these same reasons I’m afraid to recommend her to you:
I know. Bad etiquette. But I simply don’t have the vocabulary to craft a content warning that would be strong enough to give readers unfamiliar with her writing a proper idea of what they might find there. Ten f-bombs, to be sure. But also discussion of insane taxidermy experiments. Pictures of insane taxidermy experiments. Sexual references that would make Hugh Hefner blush. And that’s just in the first paragraph.
Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Kevin Leman. Leman is one of my favorite marriage and family authors: his Birth Order Book deserves to be in the next installment of The Books That Changed My Life. But I haven’t recommended this one because
1. It’s about sex.
2. I’m not 100% on board with all his advice.
3. Sometimes his tone makes me cringe.
And while we’re talking about awkward sex books, how about The 4 Hour Body? I recently recommended this one to my mom after I’d read the first few chapters, because Tim Ferriss’s diet and exercise advice was surprisingly solid.
But then, I got to the sex part. The subtitle should have clued me in: “An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman.” But since I borrowed this book from the library for my Kindle, I never saw the cover–or the subtitle–and was completely surprised by the sex part. When I got there I was super embarrassed I’d recommended this one to my mother. I’m praying she just forgot I ever said anything about this book.
The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses Including Health, Career, and Faith, John W. James, Russell Friedman. This terrific book definitely belongs on my next Books That Changed My Life round-up. But what a downer. Unresolved grief may be a major issue in many people’s lives, but that doesn’t mean they want to read about it in a blog post. Or at least, that’s what’s kept me from recommending it to you.
Me Talk Pretty One Day, David Sedaris. Sedaris writes masterful tales of family dysfunction. His best essays make me laugh until I cry (and–bonus!–leave me feeling pretty good about my own family’s functionality). But he is sometimes cynical and often crass, the language can be totally objectionable, and the themes ensure that I don’t forget to put his books on high shelves instead of leaving them on the coffee table where my young readers might flip them open.
If you’d like to check out some books I’m not afraid to recommend, check out my free summer reading guide, Ultimate Beach Reading.
And if you ever have any questions about any book I mention here on Modern Mrs Darcy or over on Goodreads, don’t hesitate to ask! I’d be happy to help you figure out if a book I’ve mentioned sounds like it would be a good choice for you.
What books do you love, but hesitate to recommend?