The language of flowers.

The language of flowers.

This post is sponsored by The Bouqs Company. 

We have fresh flowers on the kitchen counter as often as possible, and if there’s enough to go around I keep them on my desk, too. They’re easy, beautiful, and happy. Usually I buy them for myself (or snip them from the yard, if I’m lucky) but every once in a while someone sends them to me. (We all love it when that happens, right?)

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I have a beautiful bouquet on my kitchen table right now. They’re from a far-away friend who sent them after our puppy died, to let me know she was thinking of me. I was touched she cared enough to bother, and I also felt the beautiful bouquet—and what it meant—gave me permission to be sad. I needed that.

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The most flowers I’ve ever gotten at one time was when I miscarried a few years ago. It was my third pregnancy, but first pregnancy loss, and I was stunned at the depth of my emotions. When several far-away friends and family members sent flowers, it meant the world to me.

The flowers they sent were beautiful, they smelled good, they were calming to see, but they meant more than that. I don’t mean in The Language of Flowers sense—I have no idea which flowers represent love, or fidelity, or envy.

No, I mean those bouquets said they knew I was grieving—that they expected me to be—and that they were there for me in it.

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Of course I’d rather give (or receive) happy occasion flowers, and I especially love the occasional “just because” bouquet.

I recently ordered two bouquets from The Bouqs Company while we were on vacation—one for myself and one for a friend. When you place your order, you get to write a note to your recipient. My note to myself said, “Thought you could use these right about now.” I thought I was being silly.

But those flowers arrived right after we got home from vacation. Our kitchen was gutted: that was the plan, but it’s still no fun living without a kitchen sink. We found out our puppy died while we were away. The next day, I got a little sick, and then one of my kids woke up puking.

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That’s right about when Mr. Fed Ex knocked on my door, holding a big fat box from The Bouqs Company. I read the card and thought about bursting into tears, but I didn’t have time for that, so instead I found a vase (actually two vases, there were so many stems), arranged my flowers, and put the cheerful-looking bouquet on my busted kitchen counter.

It was good timing.

About The Bouqs Company: it’s a new flower delivery service that’s easy, inexpensive, and good for the easily overwhelmed: a curated selection of bouquets, flat pricing, and simple checkout. Shipping is always free.

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Flowers are grown on the side of an active volcano in Ecuador, cut the day you order, and shipped directly to your door from the farms. (All sustainable, eco-friendly, and certified by Veriflora and The Rainforest Alliance). By cutting out the middlemen, the flowers get to you a lot faster, for a lot less money.

When my BBQ’n bouquet arrived, I used the stems (so many stems) for two simple arrangements. It took me years to learn the secret to a floral arrangement that holds together, so let me save you the trouble: it’s a rubber band. (Your bouquet will come with several.)

I gathered up a large handful of apricot roses (only about one-third of my order), snipped the stems, slipped a rubber band around them, and put them in a quart-size mason jar.

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For red roses, I love the look of a low, mounded bouquet. To get this look, I gathered my flowers, held them loosely while I arranged them, and snipped the stems until they fit nicely in my vase. (You can see in the above picture that I cut off a whopping six inches.) Then I rubber-banded them, put them in the vase (I used a 5″ square vase), and gently tweaked their placement.

This technique is wonderful for flowers you’ve had around for a while that are starting to get droopy. A tight bouquet like this lets you enjoy them for a few more days.

Save 20% off your next flower order! Whether it’s for happy reasons, sad reasons, or any reason at all—use the code GETBLOOMS to receive 20% off your order from (Offer expires 9/8.)

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21 comments | Comment


  1. Steph says:

    I always thought I was too practical for flowers and had trouble embracing them. And then I realized I was dismissing the importance of beauty to help us through tough times or simply to celebrate the good ones. I’m currently looking at a bouquet from Trader Joe’s and am super grateful I’ve finally come around (in part because of reading The Nesting Place).

  2. Marne says:

    Morning Anne

    Beautiful post – words, sentiment, and photos. My favorite (besides the coupon, thank you!) is the line, “those bouquets said they knew I was grieving—that they expected me to be—and that they were there for me in it.”

    So many times people try to be strong for everyone else and forgo their grieving…which always pops up bigger and meaner at a later point.

    You are brave and kind to show your own grieving – to give others permission to do the same.

  3. Anna says:

    I love fresh flowers. Whether I’m seeing them outside in their natural habitat or inside in a vase, they always lift my spirits.

  4. I am not a person who naturally shows my love or concern for others in the form of gifts. I typically use words–in a card or e-mail–or offer some kind of service–meals for a new mom, etc. However, the idea of sending flowers to someone is very appealing and touching. Food for thought…

  5. Heather says:

    This post came at the perfect time. My best friend of 22 years has her birthday soon and I am thousands of miles away. Flowers are such a cheery gift! Thanks for the coupon code!

  6. Alexandra says:

    Your flowers are beautiful!
    A tip I learned a few years ago to keep roses from drooping is to cut the stems under water. That way the stem sucks up water rather than air, and they stay straight for longer.

  7. liz n. says:

    For me, yellow roses are the balm to every negative feeling, and an added bit of cheer when I’m already in a good mood. (I garden, so living, growing, green, leafy things are important for my soul.) And while I love to receive flowers as a gift, they never work as an apology if I’ve been wronged.

    I’m glad to hear that you lifted yourself up a bit by (unknowingly) gifting yourself with something you needed when you didn’t know HOW MUCH you would need it. Serendipity, eh?

  8. Andrea says:

    Local flowers if possible which likely is possible in summer. Support your state flower farmers! The sentiment is lovely though.

  9. Jen says:

    I stumbled upon The Bouqs recently as well and had a birthday bouquet sent to my out-of-town friend. The service and quality were outstanding! I used the promo code to order a birthday bouquet for my grandma, who loves having fresh flowers on her table. Thanks for sharing your experience and the promo code 🙂

  10. Roberta says:

    Just ordered 2 bouquets “just because” I have 2 wonderful daughters-in-law. Thanks for your blog and the idea. Bookmarking this site.

  11. Ashley says:

    My husband passed away recently. I had thought before that sending flowers after a loss was silly and a waste of money, but being surrounded by living and lovely things at a time when a large chunk of life sucked was actually really, really nice. And the pot of lilies someone sent me made my whole kitchen smell like a garden for a couple of weeks, and some days that smell brought the only moment that I smiled voluntarily. Surprising the power of those relatively small gestures.

    I think I’m going to be sending a lot more flowers in the future.

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