A girlfriend of mine quipped that there are two types of women in the world: princesses and pioneer women. Princesses believe that they deserve a better life and expect others to serve them. Pioneer women expect that any improvement in their lives will come through their own hard work; they are in charge of their own happiness.
So says Meg Meeker in her excellent book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, which explores the dad’s role in girls becoming strong and confident women–and how even the most doting father can raise a pioneer woman, and not a princess. (I highly recommend the book, but I’m warning you: if you have young girls, it can be scary to imagine what adolescence might look like one day for your daughters!)
Princesses are popular with the younger set these days. A little girl pretending to be a princess can be sweet, but what if it’s a grown woman that still expects others to serve her? That’s another story!
Princesses take. Princesses want more. Princesses demand. They expect perfection and lack pragmatism. They don’t act–except to tell others what they want.
But pioneer women know that life is the way it is, and they rely on themselves to move forward.
I would love to say that I’ve always been a pioneer woman. But it wouldn’t be true. I definitely have a checkered, princess-y past. I wish I could adequately convey to you the shock I felt when I got married, and realized….(drumroll please)….that the world didn’t revolve around me. A pioneer woman wouldn’t have been so surprised. Thankfully, I think the pioneer woman in me has taken back a lot of ground from my inner princess since then!
So, my question to you is…
Princess or pioneer woman? Which one are you?