Women, Work, and How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too

Women, Work, and How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too

The scene is shifting for women today.  Due to cultural trends, evolving technology and some major soul-searching, women have more work options than ever before.  And it’s not because the corporate world is handing out part-time positions on a silver platter to nice mothers who want to wrap up their day at the office in time for afternoon carpool.

No, it’s because today’s mothers–and fathers–are making a new way.  Deeply dissatisfied with the 50-hours-a-week-or-nothing corporate mentality of the last 50 years, today’s moms and dads are finding ways to pay the bills, pursue their passions and maintain their family life.  Fulfillment (at work and at home) and flexibility are rapidly replacing the house-on-a-quarter-acre as the New American Dream.

Increasingly, the dichotomy of the stay-at-home-mom versus working mother is proving to be a false one.  All-or-nothing isn’t the only option.  Shared care is on the rise, cottage industries are exploding, and viable work-from-home options are booming.  My family has been figuring out this new way to live and work and parent since our first child was born, and I am always eager to peek inside the lives of real women who are successfully merging work and family in their own lives.  I want to hear their stories.

Mandi Ehman is one of those women.  I had the good fortune to pick up Mandi’s ebook How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Toojust after I finished The Feminine Mistake, and the timing could not have been better.  After reading Leslie Bennets’s 300 pages on how I have already ruined my life by abandoning my full-time job in the workforce to spend more time with my kids, Mandi’s story about her own family’s journey was refreshing and encouraging.  She shares how she and her husband have balanced work and family life between them, and about the unconventional solutions they’ve found that are bringing them fulfillment in their work and their family lives.

Finding fulfillment in both of these areas is the heart of Mandi’s definition of having your cake and eating it too:  “I firmly believe we can be mothers who are fully invested in raising our children and providing a home for our families while also pursuing our dreams and even fulfillment outside of our family.”

Mandi’s book is aimed at work-at-home moms (or moms who are considering working from home), but her insights and practical tips would be valuable to working moms as well.  And I highly recommend this book to my unmarried or childless readers who would like to be mothers.  As a teenager and later as a college student, I knew I wanted to have kids, but I thought there was only one choice to be made: working mom, or stay at home mom?  But real life is so much more complex–and more exciting. Mandi’s ebook will give you a better idea of what your real life could look like down the road, and help you prepare to make the most of it.

(Tip:  Use the coupon code DREAMBIG to get the ebook for $9, discounted from the regular price of $12.)

How are you shaping your life to accommodate a meaningful family life and the pursuit of your passions?  How’s it working out in your family?  Share deep thoughts, tips, and tricks in comments!


Buy Now

Disclosure:  I received a review copy of How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too.  My opinions are my own.

If you enjoyed this post, subscribe now for free updates in a reader or by email!

Share on FacebookTweet about this on TwitterPin on PinterestEmail this to someonePrint this page

Tagged .


  1. KT says:

    Sounds really interesting! I’m 3 months pregnant with my first and currently in discussions with my office about a part-time position working at home. I’m trying to figure out what that means for childcare (will I need help watching the baby while I work?) and what family life will look like and am always desperately looking for advice from those who have been there!

  2. Lucky says:

    This sounds really good. I had seen this book advertised but thought it was a cookbook. I guess I should have paid more attention because this sounds like a really good read.

    My company has been really good about letting me work at home, take two long maternity leaves, leave early etc, but even still I’m thinking about transitioning to part time.

    I’m not sure I could work from home full time. To do the work I do I would still need child care for my kids and when I do work from home with them at day care it’s almost a little too quiet. It’s nice for a while but then I find myself wishing there was someone to go for a walk with or have coffee with.

  3. Mrs C says:

    I am not a mom yet but this books looks very interesting as we are starting to talk about having a family. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! Hope to see you back as a follower 🙂 Happy Wednesday!

    Recipes Fashion Marriage

  4. Emily says:

    I feel so blessed to live in an age where I can pursue my passions without having to leave the home. I wonder if people really realize how good we have it nowadays…

  5. Audrey says:

    I haven’t read Mandi’s book, but I totally agree with you! It is exciting to be open to the idea that there other options out there besides full-time at-home mom OR full-time working mom. Many of us need to help support our families financially and want to pursue personal interests, but also want time to be engaged with our families simultaneously.

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.