Most of the year, my default setting is “no.”
I love my day-in, day-out, ordinary life. I love the flow of our regular days, and I love nights in, when the kids hop in bed right on time and we grown-ups have hours to spend alone.
I really like home, and so does the rest of my family. I wouldn’t trade that for the world. But it gives me lots of good reasons to say no.
We say no to baseball games and fireworks displays, community festivals and cookouts that go way past their bedtime. We skip concerts and dinners out and too many playdates in one week. We even skipped our beloved farmers’ market last weekend because taking 4 kids is so much work.
I say no because the kids whine and cry when they’re hot and tired, and piling six of us in the minivan is hard (but not as hard as when daddy’s at work and only 5 of us are climbing in) and the sun is so hot and their bedtime is so early and they’re allergic to everything and why don’t we just stay home.
I have good reasons to say no, but I think I might be saying it too much. Especially for summertime.
So this summer, I will say yes–and we will hit the splash park with friends in the hot sunshine and spend too many hours at pool. We’ll stay up way too late for ballgames and fireworks displays. We’ll hike and play and maybe even fish. We’ll pick berries and chase and run and visit. We will take the long way.
Many of you already lead lives packed full with activity, and you probably think I’m crazy. I hear people talk a lot about how they need to learn to say no, but I need encouragement to say yes.
So be it.
This summer, I’m saying yes.
Is it harder for you to say yes or say no? Does that change in the summertime?