This post is the second in a series on mentoring happening on the blog this year. Read the first post here.
Last month, we talked about the 4 reasons you need a mentor.
So let’s say you’re convinced that you need a mentor. How do you ask someone to mentor you?
4 things to remember when asking someone to mentor you
1. Be nice. Remember: you’re asking for a favor! And you’ll likely be nervous about asking, and it’s easy to be less-than-socially-graceful when you’re nervous. Being aware of this can help you make sure you sound friendly and not aloof. (This is an easy mistake to make–ask me how I know!)
2. Tell them why. Your prospective mentor wants to know why you’re asking them and not somebody else. Tell them why. Tell them what you think they have to offer; tell them why they’re a good fit. You’re much more likely to get a “yes” if you give them a good reason.
3. Be specific. What are you looking for? Don’t just ask them, “will you mentor me?” Be very specific about what you need help with, what form you want that help to take, and what you envision your meetings looking like. Make a specific request so they know what they’re agreeing to. You’re much more likely to get a “yes” if you’re specific.
4. Make it easy for them. Be clear that you will suit their schedule. Do they want to skype or phone chat? Say yes. Do they want to meet at the coffee shop right by their office? Say yes. Do they want to meet at 6:00 am, or 9:00 pm. Say yes. Make it easy for them.
What if I’m not sure who to ask?
Not sure who to ask? Next time, we’ll talk about how to find the right person.
Have you asked someone to mentor you? If yes, did you follow these tips? If not, what’s holding you back?