Don’t Be a Drama Queen, and Other Lessons in Friendship from Anne Shirley

Don’t Be a Drama Queen, and Other Lessons in Friendship from Anne Shirley

Don't be a drama queen, and other lessons in friendship from Anne of Green Gables. (part of the Life Lessons from Green Gables series)

Anne Shirley arrived at Green Gables, 11 years old and without a friend in the world except Katie Maurice in the looking glass.  But Anne was made for friendship–Maud Montgomery said she had a “genius” for it–and when the lonely orphan is suddenly transplanted to a new world with Marilla and Matthew, we readers get to watch as she draws a sweet circle of friends around her throughout the Anne of Green Gables series.

She found her longed-for bosom friend in Diana Barry (“A what kind of friend?” asked Marilla.  “A bosom friend–an intimate friend, you know–a really kindred spirit to whom I can confide my inmost soul.”), Avonlea friends Jane Andrews and Ruby Gillis, and what would Anne of the Island be without Priscilla Grant, Stella Maynard and Philipa Gordon?  (And don’t forget her “beautiful comradeship” with Gilbert Blythe.)

You can be a kindred spirit, too: Anne would be pleased to show you how to be a better friend:

Don't be a drama queen, and other lessons in friendship from Anne Shirley. (part of the Life Lessons from Green Gables series)

1. Assume the best about people until proven otherwise. “A merchant in Hopetown last winter donated three hundred yards of wincey to the asylum. Some people said it was because he couldn’t sell it, but I’d rather believe that it was out of the kindness of his heart,wouldn’t you?”

2. Be on the lookout for friends. I felt that [Matthew] was a kindred spirit as soon as I ever saw him.”

Don't be a drama queen, and other lessons in friendship from Anne Shirley. part of the Life Lessons from Green Gables series. Anne Shirley and Aunt Josephine.

3. First impressions can be wrong.Miss Barry was a kindred spirit after all,” Anne confided to Marilla.  “You wouldn’t think so to look at her, but she is. You don’t find it right out at first, as in Matthew’s case, but after a while you come to see it.”

4. Give freely. “I can give Diana half [my chocolate], can’t I?  The other half will taste twice as sweet to me if I give some to her. It’s delightful to think I have something to give her.”

5. Bring something to the table. “Anne was welcomed back to school with open arms. Her imagination had been sorely missed in games, her voice in the singing, and her dramatic ability in the perusal aloud of books at dinner hour.”

Don't be a drama queen, and other lessons in friendship from Anne Shirley. part of the Life Lessons from Green Gables series. Anne Shirley and Diana Barry, her bosom friend.

6. Be modest. “I’ve a compliment for you, Anne,” said Diana….“We heard [the distinguished artist] say ‘Who is that girl on the platform with the splendid Titian hair?  She has a face I should like to paint.’ There now, Anne. But what does Titian hair mean?” “Being interpreted it means plain red, I guess,” laughed Anne.”

7. Look for the best in others; give your best to them. “If we have friends we should look only for the best in them and give them the best that is in us, don’t you think?”

8. Don’t be a drama queen. “Anne never stooped to the petty practices of so many of the Avonlea girls–the small jealousies, the little deceits and rivalries, the palpable bids for favor.”

9. Bring out the best in others. Says Philipa, “When you look at me in a certain way…I long to be better and wiser and stronger.

10. Don’t be jealous of your friends. “Anne, there’s one thing in particular I like about you–you’re so ungrudging. There isn’t a particle of envy in you.”

Remember, “Kindred spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. It’s splendid to find out there are so many of them in the world.

This post is the second in the series Life Lessons from Green Gables. Click here to view the other posts in the series:

Lessons in Tact from Rachel Lynde.

Learning to Mellow Like Marilla Cuthbert.

Go After Your Girl Like Gilbert Blythe.

Revisiting Rilla of Ingleside.

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  2. Faydra Jones says:

    Wow…you nailed it! Love this post so much that I linked to it from my blog too. Thanks for writing such an insightful, helpful post on friendship…& thanks to our wise friend, Anne Shirley. 🙂

    Anne of Green Gables series is one of my favorites hands down…revisit them every year or 2…they always make me laugh with joy & cry with sorrow. 🙂

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