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Self-awareness isn’t my strong suit.

It drives my husband crazy that I’m not so good on picking up on my body’s signals: I’m not the least bit hungry until I’m starving. I’m not at all sleepy until I’m completely exhausted. I don’t have to pee until I’m about to pee in my pants!

But this year, I’ve finally noticed a pattern: If I want to watch tv, it means I’m stressed out.

I have a few shows I watch, and I plan on watching them. On Monday nights, you’ll always find me watching Once Upon a Time on hulu, and there’s no deeper meaning there. But if I’m ever seized with a desperate much-watch-tv feeling, just for the sake of watching something, it’s time to look beneath the surface and see what’s driving that desire.

Thankfully, curling up with a cup of tea and a great show is a pretty harmless stress response. I’ve even found some wonderful shows when I’ve been stressed out and casting about for something to watch. (Hello, Downton Abbey.)

For someone who’s not great at self-awareness, having a reliable indicator like this can be pretty handy.

What’s your sign that you’re getting stressed out?

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I hate to shop.

I love having shopped–I enjoy wearing cute clothes, and having a closet full of lovely clothes that fit–but I hate the actual shopping!

That’s why I’m always looking for tips and tricks to help me get my clothing shopping done as quickly as possible so I can get on with the things I really enjoy in life.

Can you see why an ebook called The No Brainer Wardrobe appealed to me?  Hayley Morgan’s new ebook promises to help women “learn to love the clothes they have, lose the clothes they hate, and shop for items to fill the gaps.”

I need help with all 3 of those areas, so I bought my own copy of The No Brainer Wardrobe a few weeks ago–and then I tore through it in one sitting!

Hayley’s aim is to walk you through the steps of putting together a small wardrobe that really works (she calls it a capsule wardrobe), and it’s full of step-by-step directions and action items so that I can make my good intentions become my reality!  I loved her specific instructions for shopping thrift stores, value stores (like Old Navy), dressing while you’re pregnant, and transforming jeans and a t-shirt into a bona fide outfit.

And get this: Hayley questions the wisdom of investing in the little black dress if you’re budget-conscious.  (Read her explanation before you cry Sacrilege!  I’ve thought about how this tip applies to my own lifestyle, and I’m inclined to agree.)

There are two ways to tackle this book: you could read it and reform your wardrobe in a weekend, or you can implement Hayley’s suggestions bit-by-bit.  I’m taking the latter approach, and at Hayley’s prodding, I’m pinning away to my Style Board on Pinterest and making plans to create my own Look Book in the near future.

And acting on Hayley’s advice, I finally bought myself some skinny jeans at Old Navy.  I thought I hated Old Navy denim, but The No Brainer Wardrobe recommended Old Navy’s skinnies, so I thought I’d at least go try them on.  Well, I love my new skinnies, and they cost me half of what I expected to pay!

Hayley has one copy of The No Brainer Wardrobe to give away to one lucky reader.

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Are you familiar with feed readers?  An RSS reader is a web tool that allows you to follow all the blogs you read in one place.  It’s made to be a convenience tool–but it can also change your life, if you let it.  We’ll get to that part in a minute; first, let me tell you how a reader works.

Google Reader is the feed reader I use.  (Other popular RSS readers include Bloglines and Bloglovin.)  I’m a recent Google Reader convert–it’s only in the past year that I’ve discovered Google Reader and learned that instead of bookmarking my favorite blogs, or typing their addresses into the address bar to see if they’ve been updated, I could use a feed reader to gather all the blogs I read together in one place.  A feed reader like Google Reader allows you to create your own custom, curated collection of blog: it’s like a magazine you design just for you.

I follow several blogs that aren’t updated very often, and Google Reader is a brilliant tool for reading these blogs.  I don’t have to keep going back to the blogs to check for new posts:  as soon as a new post appears on the blog, I’ll be able to see it in my reader.

The RSS Reader as Motivational Tool

I subscribe to blogs that write about stuff I’m interested in.  Doesn’t everyone?

But I accidentally made a discovery: If I add blogs to my reader because I want to be interested in those topics, I’ll be much more likely to be interested.  If I’m reading The Simple Dollar everyday, I’ll stay interested in frugal living.  If I’m regularly checking the Crossfit main page, staying fit will stay on my mind.  And if you’ve recently made some resolutions or set goals for the New Year, I highly recommend using your feed reader to maintain your focus and follow through.

When you subscribe to a blog’s RSS feed (RSS stands for “Really Simple Syndication”), you’re asking that new content be delivered to you regularly. And if you’re trying to maintain focus on your finances, or good health, or staying organized, having regular reminders appear in your feed reader helps you keep your eye on the ball.  (And if you don’t think a feed reader is for you, you can always choose to subscribe by email and have new posts delivered to your inbox.)

In the past week I’ve deliberately added blogs to my reader in categories I want to stay focused on.  For example, I want to learn about the craft of writing this year, so I just subscribed to Goins, Writer and The Handwritten–two writing blogs to help me stay focused on the subject.

What do you want to stay focused on this year?  Feel free to borrow these blogs from my reader to help you keep your focus:

Health:  Mark’s Daily Apple, Wellness Mama

Finances: The Simple Dollar, Money Saving Mom

Simplifying: Unclutterer, Simple Mom

Fashion:  Already Pretty, Betty Beguiles

Organization: I Heart Organizing, Organizing Your Way

What do you want to stay focused on this year?

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I shared my goals for 2012 with you on Monday, but I make New Year’s resolutions, too–and finally, this year, I feel like I might actually get somewhere with them!

While my goals are about big things I want to achieve, my resolutions are more about habits I want to adopt.  You know, the little things like:

  • Drink more water.
  • Take my vitamins.
  • Put my shoes in the closet promptly.
  • Remove my eye makeup at night.  (Ew, gross.  I know.)

My husband joined a 3 Tiny Habits group back in December.  He picked his 3 tiny habits to work on, and I thought it sounded like such a good idea that I decided to pick some, too.  Now I’ve been working on these habits for nearly a month, and I’m carrying that momentum into the New Year.  Here are my 3 tiny habits:

  1. After my alarm clock goes off, then I will turn on the light.
  2. After I pour myself a cup of coffee, then I will pour myself a glass of water.
  3. After I take off my shoes, then I will put them in the closet.

Do you see the after…then in my 3 habits?  That’s on purpose.  The tiny habits are supposed to be contextual.  You find something that you’re already doing, and you build on it in order to form a new habit.

And do you see how these are tiny things?  They are not hard, but if I follow through on them, I get out of bed on time, take better care of my body, and reduce the clutter in my bedroom–and those are big things for me.

I’m only tackling 3 habits at a time so that I won’t get overwhelmed.  It’s working:  I’ve been doing my 3 tiny habits successfully for a month, and I think I’m nearly ready to tackle 3 more.

What habits do you want to form in 2012?

photo credit: Jim Murphy

This post is linked to Works for Me Wednesday.

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The other day I told you about the odd comment my husband received at work last week about the way he was dressed.  The truth is, I do help him with his fashion choices.  And he helps me, too.  After a bumpy start, we’re now at a happy place in our relationship where fashion is concerned, and we’ve gotten there by using these 4 tips:

Develop a language to talk about clothing. When I was in college, my roommate told me one of her mom’s secrets of marital success:  the trick of “losing it in the wash.”  If your man owns (and wears!) clothes that you find completely hideous, you make them disappear and explain that they “got lost in the wash.”

We’ve been married 11 years, and none of my husband’s clothes have been “lost in the wash.”  (Nor has he “lost” any of mine.  Phew!)  But long ago we adopted this language to talk about our faded t-shirts and holey jeans.  So instead of saying, “That t-shirt looks terrible and you should throw it away,” I can say, “Would you be sad if that t-shirt got lost in the wash?” He knows what that means, and we have a good laugh–and the answer will likely either be “I’ll throw it away” or “I’ll save it for running.”

Be his partner–not his boss. I am not the fashion police.  I like nice clothes, but I am not a style maven:  my fall uniform consists of white tees, cardigan sweaters, dark denim and my beloved Dansko clogs.  That’s hardly going to land me on the pages of In Style.  My husband is also a pretty basic dresser.  We are not aggressively fashionable people, but we both think it’s important to dress the part–whatever your role may be for any given day.

We’re on the same team, and as his partner, I’ll tell him when his shirt needs ironing, or he should change his shoes.  I expect him to do the same for me (and he knows it).

Help him look like his best self, not like somebody else. Don’t try and change who he is. If you feel the need to totally make over your guy’s image, the issue there goes far beyond clothing.  For example:

don't try to dress this guy

like this guy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t make it look like he cares too much about his clothes. Most men I know do not want to look like they care too much about their appearance.  They want the world to know that they made the effort to shower and put on a clean shirt.  They would prefer that the rest look effortless.  I know quite a few women who don’t mind looking like they tried pretty hard to look nice–but no man that I know is willing to admit it!

So if you’re helping your man with his wardrobe, keep this in mind:  he doesn’t want it to look like you helped him!

But helping him manage his wardrobe can be a huge encouragement, so do it anyway.  But don’t tell!

Do you help your man with his wardrobe?  Does he help you?  Share your best tip in comments!

photo credits: GastroChic via Bekah on Pinterest and Shawn Lyon via Emily on Pinterest

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Happy Thursday! The perceptive readers among you have no doubt noticed that earlier this summer I switched from a 6-day-a-week posting schedule to a 4-day one, and it’s been some time since a Thursday post went up. (My own pattern recognition skills are abysmal; it would take me till Christmas to catch on. Or maybe Valentine’s Day. Or never. That’s a real possibility, actually.)

But this seemed like a great week to participate in the Thursday link-up at one of my favorite sites, Like Mother, Like Daughter. I’ve written about Leila before, and admire her site, but sadly, a photo link-up doesn’t often fit thematically with the topics here on Modern Mrs Darcy.  But this week it’s perfect, because I’m dying to show you a couple of my sewing projects (largely inspired by you, the readers, and the amazing projects you shared in the comments to this post), and I can hardly wait to share with you all the good stuff I’ve been reading.

So without further ado, I present to you….

 

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These are my girls.  They’re 4 and 6, and I couldn’t think of a better subject to illustrate “pretty.”  Also pretty, I think, are their dresses, which I constructed out of a pale green cotton that had languished on their shared closet’s top shelf since before they were born.  I’ve just gotten back into sewing for the first time in, oh, a decade or so, and this pale green was my “practice” fabric.  But the finished results turned out so well that I’ve let these dresses see the light of day.

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This is Felicity, in her pale green dress that matches Sarah’s.  I’m pretty proud of myself for whipping this up (without a pattern, even).  Matching doll dresses make for happy girls.

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I just told you I haven’t sewn in a decade, right?  Well, I wanted to make a skirt, but I was terrified to cut my real skirt fabric for fear that I’d flub it.  So I made my first skirt in practice fabric–which happens to be a fish print from curtains that hung in my brother’s room a long time ago.  (It’s a fish print, from when my brother was going through his Phish phase.  Get it?  He was a Phish fan at the right time.  Even Ben & Jerry’s came out with a flavor devoted to the band.)  Well, those curtains have been folded neatly in the fabric box for years, and they made excellent practice fabric for my a-line skirt.  And it’s a good thing I chose to practice, because I messed this pattern up 7 ways to Sunday.  Do you see how the fabric to the rear of the side seam looks much, much paler than the fabric to the front of it?  That’s because I stitched the right side to the wrong side.  And it’s a good thing you can’t see the back of the skirt here, because that’s even funnier.

But my real skirt, not the practice one, is finished, but for the hem.  And it looks pretty good.  Thank you, funny fish fabric, for letting me iron out all the kinks on you.

This is my gigantic, but not inclusive, book stack.  Dear readers, if you’re thinking that you see a book here that you’ve recommended to me, you’re not dreaming.  I admire your taste and take your suggestions very much to heart.  Do you have a good book to recommend to me?  Please share it!  I feel wealthy with a tall stack of books by my bedside–I take much contentment from a tall stack of good books.  And I guarantee you’ll be hearing about a few of them in the coming weeks.

And do you notice all those Dewey Decimal numbers on the spines?  Yes, I love my library.

These are all things that bring a great deal of contentment into my own life.  Thanks for joining me at what may be the only {pretty, happy, funny, real} moment here at Modern Mrs Darcy.

And after sharing those snapshots from my own life, I’d like to know what brings you contentment in everyday life?

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