I’m not into greeting cards, and being the center of attention makes me self-conscious, so Mother’s Day is not a big thing for me.
But I do love being appreciated for who I am and what I do as a mom. Everybody needs appreciation, and as a mom that can feel hard to come by, at least from my kids.
That’s okay. As a mom to young children, the person I most want appreciation from is my husband.
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When we were just at the homeschool conference , my husband and I heard Crystal Paine speak about the challenges (and joys) of being a mother and an entrepreneur. She gave practical tips on how she structures her days so she can run a thriving business and be there for her kids.
She also shared how she didn’t succeed in a straight line: Money Saving Mom wasn’t the first business she dreamed up. She tried several ventures before that, and they flopped–hard! But she kept persevering and coming up with new ideas until she hit on the idea for Money Saving Mom, which took off and continues to do very, very well.
After the talk, my husband struck up a conversation with her husband, Jesse. When I stepped over to join them, my husband shot me a mischievous smile and said “I’ll see you in a minute, okay?”
I was so curious: What did my husband want to discuss with Mr. Money Saving Mom that he didn’t want me to hear?
To my surprise, he didn’t volunteer the information when me met back up later. On the drive home that night I finally asked: what were you two talking about?
My husband asked him what he’d done to encourage his wife as she pursued her business in those early years–before she knew she’d succeed, before she ran one of the top personal finance blogs on the web.
(Jesse’s answer was to be patient and encourage her, to help her make it work and don’t tell her to give up.)
But what mattered to me was that my husband had asked the question.
His question showed me that he’s thinking about how to encourage me. I love Lisa McMinn’s pithy quote: “A strong marriage is one in which the husband and wife say to each other, ‘I am highly committed to your growth as a person.’” His actions show me that. Constantly.
I wouldn’t mind a little show of appreciation on Mother’s Day, but I love that my husband shows me with his daily actions that he appreciates what I do, that he wants to help me do it well, and that he’s highly committed to my growth as a person.
Don’t get the wrong idea–it does get rocky around here sometimes. But the day-in, day-out is pretty darn good, and I wouldn’t trade that for a hundred giant Mother’s Day bouquets. (Although a small bunch of tulips would be nice.)
What’s a small thing that makes you feel appreciated by your friends and loved ones, for whatever it is that you do? Leave your answer in comments so we can all have more ideas on how to appreciate the women in our lives–whether they’re moms or not, coupled or single.