The scene is shifting for women today. Due to cultural trends, evolving technology and some major soul-searching, women have more work options than ever before. And it’s not because the corporate world is handing out part-time positions on a silver platter to nice mothers who want to wrap up their day at the office in time for afternoon carpool.
No, it’s because today’s mothers–and fathers–are making a new way. Deeply dissatisfied with the 50-hours-a-week-or-nothing corporate mentality of the last 50 years, today’s moms and dads are finding ways to pay the bills, pursue their passions and maintain their family life. Fulfillment (at work and at home) and flexibility are rapidly replacing the house-on-a-quarter-acre as the New American Dream.
Increasingly, the dichotomy of the stay-at-home-mom versus working mother is proving to be a false one. All-or-nothing isn’t the only option. Shared care is on the rise, cottage industries are exploding, and viable work-from-home options are booming. My family has been figuring out this new way to live and work and parent since our first child was born, and I am always eager to peek inside the lives of real women who are successfully merging work and family in their own lives. I want to hear their stories.
Mandi Ehman is one of those women. I had the good fortune to pick up Mandi’s ebook How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Toojust after I finished The Feminine Mistake, and the timing could not have been better. After reading Leslie Bennets’s 300 pages on how I have already ruined my life by abandoning my full-time job in the workforce to spend more time with my kids, Mandi’s story about her own family’s journey was refreshing and encouraging. She shares how she and her husband have balanced work and family life between them, and about the unconventional solutions they’ve found that are bringing them fulfillment in their work and their family lives.
Finding fulfillment in both of these areas is the heart of Mandi’s definition of having your cake and eating it too: “I firmly believe we can be mothers who are fully invested in raising our children and providing a home for our families while also pursuing our dreams and even fulfillment outside of our family.”
Mandi’s book is aimed at work-at-home moms (or moms who are considering working from home), but her insights and practical tips would be valuable to working moms as well. And I highly recommend this book to my unmarried or childless readers who would like to be mothers. As a teenager and later as a college student, I knew I wanted to have kids, but I thought there was only one choice to be made: working mom, or stay at home mom? But real life is so much more complex–and more exciting. Mandi’s ebook will give you a better idea of what your real life could look like down the road, and help you prepare to make the most of it.
(Tip: Use the coupon code DREAMBIG to get the ebook for $9, discounted from the regular price of $12.)
How are you shaping your life to accommodate a meaningful family life and the pursuit of your passions? How’s it working out in your family? Share deep thoughts, tips, and tricks in comments!